Using Energy Mapping in Counseling as a Framework for Finding Life’s Balance

By Josh Littleton, PhD, LMHC, ABS

It started with exhaustion. Not the kind that a good night’s sleep could fix, but a chronic depletion that sneaked in slowly as I straddled two full-time identities: corporate leader by day, counselor and clinic administrator by night. For a while, I convinced myself it was noble — I was simply a high-achiever giving back to the world. But the fatigue, emotional whiplash and increasing frustration said otherwise. My mother’s voice often echoed in my head, “As you get older, your body doesn't do what it used to.”

And painfully so, she was right.

I needed a recalibration, but I didn’t just want to quit something. I wanted to understand why the burnout felt so pervasive and how to rebuild a life that wasn’t running on fumes. That’s when I began working with an energy mapping exercise that now frequently appears in my counseling sessions.

Understanding that Energy Mapping Reinforces Alignment

Energy mapping is a reflective, practical framework used to evaluate how different activities, roles and relationships affect your energy. This exercise has evolved over the years that I have been working with clients in outpatient settings. Energy mapping simply and powerfully helps you identify where reserves are being drained or replenished and what activities feel neutral or are difficult but ultimately worth it. The goal isn’t just balance — it’s alignment.

Shifting from Burnout to Balance

Folks entering counseling often describe being overcommitted or pulled in multiple directions. What many don’t initially realize is that their calendar isn’t just filled with time commitments — it’s filled with energy expenditures. According to Maslach and Leiter, burnout is most often the result of a chronic mismatch between the individual and key areas of their work or life, such as workload, control or values. By using energy mapping, clients can start to see those mismatches more clearly.

To use energy mapping during a session, begin by dividing a page (or digital document) into four quadrants:

Drains: Tasks or interactions that leave you feeling depleted
Fills: Activities or people that replenish your energy
Neutral: Things that neither fill nor drain you
Hard but Worth It: Challenging commitments that still feel meaningful

Invite the client to do a brain dump across these quadrants without judgment. As you explore each quadrant together, deeper themes may emerge: codependency in what fills them, perfectionism in the hard but worth it zone or misalignment in the draining tasks.

Incorporating Brain Dumping as a Companion Practice

To complement energy mapping, I also recommend time-limited brain dumping where the client writes down all their thoughts, worries and responsibilities without organizing or editing. This method works particularly well for clients with ADHD, high-functioning anxiety or perfectionistic tendencies through its defined parameters inclusive of the time constraints.

Experts in psychology and behavioral health support the idea that expressive writing helps people process emotions, reduce rumination and increase mental clarity. When combined with energy mapping, brain dumping can provide a raw view of the mental and emotional clutter clients carry and where it intersects with their energy use.

This process isn’t about assigning blame. It’s about bringing language and structure to an experience that many feel but cannot articulate. One client described the exercise as seeing the difference between what tires them out and what gives them purpose. Another realized they had always thought their relationship was neutral but realized it had actually been quietly draining them every day.

Energy mapping allows clients to reevaluate what parts of their life are aligned with their values, what needs to change and how to reprioritize based on energy, not obligation. Transformation doesn’t happen in one session or from one insight. However, tools like energy mapping and brain dumping provide a structure for clients to reflect, recalibrate and advocate for themselves. For those rebuilding after a major life change — a breakup, a new diagnosis or a career pivot — these tools offer a road map back to wholeness.

After all, when our energy is misallocated, we often lose sight of what matters. But when we learn to listen to where it flows, we can begin to recover not just our energy, but our agency.

Josh Littleton, PhD, LMHC, ABS, is a queer clinical sexologist and mental health counselor in Tampa, Florida. He provides individual and couples therapy focused on anxiety, depression, ADHD, LGBTQ+ and CNM relationships and sexual health. Littleton integrates attachment science, CBT, DBT and sex therapy to create warm, practical and affirming care. He enjoys mentoring clinicians, building community partnerships, existing at the intersection of nerd and queer culture, and recharges with tabletop games and plant care.

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