Take a look back at the father you were last year…Now make a list of your top 5 accomplishments as a father…Next make a list of your top 5 areas for growth as a father from last year. As fathers it is important to take note of how we have brought value to our kids and families because sometimes being a father is a thankless job. Some of the things to help you reflect may be:
- How much time did you spend with your child(ren) on a daily basis?
- Did you help with homework and help your child(ren) learn something new each day?
- What were some of your favorite memories with your child(ren) from this past year?
- What did you learn from your child(ren) in the past year?
- What was the easiest/hardest part of being a father this past year?
I will be taking an internal inventory of all of these questions as I continue to try and be the best father I can be in 2019. The primary question to ask each day upon seeing your child(ren) [no matter how tired we are after a long day] is how I can bring meaning and value to my child(ren) even now battling exhaustion. You don’t have to be alone in this process and engaging with other fathers, reading blogs like this one and asking for help (life coach or therapy) can all be helpful strategies to help you be the father you want to be in 2019!
Always remember to tell your child (and yourself) the following each day:
- Believe in yourself
- Love yourself
- You were born for special reasons
- Look for ways to help others today
- Your primary purpose is to discover what your unique talents are (that no one else in the world has)
If you would like to learn more about me or my practice Inner Compass Counseling, Coaching, and Consulting, PLLC and have questions feel free to visit my website www.iccounseling.net as well as read my Inner Compass Blog. My new book Abandoned to PhD: Integrating meaning and resilience in everyday life has been recently published and if you would like to review and purchase please visit https://www.balboapress.com/Bookstore/BookDetail.aspx?BookId=SKU-001156603
Dr. Gerald Brown (Doc Brown) is owner of Inner Compass Counseling, Coaching, and Consulting PLLC in Cornelius, NC and Statesville, NC. He is passionate about fatherhood issues, immigrant concerns, and specializes in trauma work. Doc Brown has presented at various conferences and has a multitude of experience training organizations and corporations in diversity and multicultural resilience. He believes in helping individuals, couples, and families find meaning and integrate that meaning with various resiliencies in order to live purposefully and vibrantly. He is married with two daughters ages 16 and 7.