Teens are tough nuts to crack. I admit with my 14 year old (soon to be 15) I sometimes wonder how to express how much I care for her (in a non-sappy manner) and also being assertive with her when I need to communicate my displeasure on something she has said or done. Social media is a big part of teenagers’ lives http so it only stands to reason that we as fathers should be more engaged with our teens via Instagram, Snap Chat, Twitter, Facebook and others. I have found that simple texts to my daughter can give her some daily inspiration and positive affirmation for her to begin her day. I also send the texts randomly so as to surprise her and give her an emotional boost as her day unfolds. See below for some ideas of specific texts to send your teen:
- It’s a great honor to be your dad.
- Watching you today at your ______________ (recital, practice, game) gave me a lot of hope, pride, and happiness.
- I was just thinking about your amazing talents today. Can you guess which ones I was thinking about?
- I hope you know that I’m always here for you and that you can tell me anything.
- I apologize for what I said to you the other day. I was wrong. Will you please forgive me? How can I make it up to you?
- I know things didn’t turn out as you expected today. I am here if you want to talk or text…
- I am proud of you…always.
- Believe in yourself.
- I love you.
- Just thinking of you (send an emoticon with it).
- What’s the funniest (substitute craziest, saddest, etc.) thing that happened to you today?
- Can I treat you tonight to your favorite ice cream or (Panera in my daughter’s case)?
And always remember to tell your teen/child the following each day but especially on their birthday:
- Believe in yourself
- Love yourself
- You were born for special reasons
- Look for ways to help others today
- Your primary purpose is to discover what your unique talents are (that no one else in the world has)
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Dr. Gerald Brown (Doc Brown) is owner of Inner Compass Counseling, Coaching, and Consulting PLLC in Cornelius, NC and Statesville, NC. He is passionate about fatherhood issues, immigrant concerns, and specializes in trauma work. Doc Brown has presented at various conferences and has a multitude of experience training organizations and corporations in diversity and multicultural resilience. He believes in helping individuals, couples, and families find meaning and integrate that meaning with various resiliencies in order to live purposefully and vibrantly. He is married with two daughters ages 14 and 6.