"When Mexico sends its people, they're not sending their best. They're not sending you. They're sending people that have lots of problems, and they're bringing those problems with us. They're bringing drugs. They're bringing crime. They're rapists. And some, I assume, are good people.”
“Look at my African American over here.”
“Our great African-American President hasn’t exactly had a positive impact on the thugs who are so happily and openly destroying Baltimore.”
"You know I’m automatically attracted to beautiful – I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. Just kiss. I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star, they let you do it. You can do anything. Grab them by the p**sy. You can do anything."
"I’ve been treated very unfairly by this judge. Now, this judge is of Mexican heritage. I'm building a wall, OK? I'm building a wall."
"I could stand in the middle of Fifth Avenue and shoot somebody, and I wouldn't lose any voters, okay? It's, like, incredible."
"We won with poorly educated. I love the poorly educated."
"We have some bad hombres here, and we're going to get them out."
I am sure I could do more research to find even more degrading and racist commentary. However it is depressing to do so as it is so easy to just Google “Trump racist quotes” and obtain a plethora of information about the president. Many days I feel like I am living in an alternate universe with alternate facts and realities.
How do we as fathers shield our children from racist rhetoric that comes from the very top of the country’s power structure while also acknowledging that racism is not an alternate fact in the 21st century. I believe it is our duties as fathers to speak the truth to our sons and daughters about this country’s shadow which many in positions of privilege are able to ignore and walk past each day. I find that having discussions with our children is the key to awareness and planting seeds of cultural empathy. Secondly, reading books about the many civil rights struggles of the past and asking pointed questions to your children such as “what is the hardest part of reading about certain people’s struggles?” “Why is race and culture important to talk about?” “What is racism?” “Is it right that certain people get treated differently (separate water fountains, voting rights, etc.)?” “How can differences be good?”
Thirdly I recommend welcomingschools.org that has a great library of books on diverse topics and issues to explore and discuss with your child on building tolerance and cultural empathy. Simply Googling civil rights images will pull up numerous powerful images that can solidify the reality that many disenfranchised groups have experienced. We as fathers can moderate family discussions around one powerful image.
We are not a post racial society and the truth of that is more evident with each passing day and each intolerant tweet.
For information on excellent resources: http://www.welcomingschools.org/resources/books/
Always remember to tell your child the following each day:
- Believe in yourself
- You were born for special reasons
- Look for ways to help others today
- Your primary purpose is to discover what your unique talents are (that no one else in the world has)
If you would like to learn more about me or my practice Inner Compass Counseling, Coaching, and Consulting, PLLC and have questions feel free to visit my website www.iccounseling.net as well as read my Inner Compass Blog.
Dr. Gerald Brown (Doc Brown) is owner of Inner Compass Counseling, Coaching, and Consulting PLLC in Cornelius, NC and Statesville, NC. He is passionate about fatherhood issues, immigrant concerns, and specializes in trauma work. Doc Brown has presented at various conferences and has a multitude of experience training organizations and corporations in diversity and multicultural resilience. He believes in helping individuals, couples, and families find meaning and integrate that meaning with various resiliencies in order to live purposefully and vibrantly. He is married with two daughters ages 14 and 6.