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Dr. Gerald Brown
Feb 06, 2017

Fatherhood in the 21st Century: Valentine’s Day Musings and Letters



St. Valentine’s Day is almost upon us.  It seems that 2017 is already flying as fast as Cupid with his heart shaped arrows.  This year I am going to write my wife and two daughters each a love letter.  The reason being that writing the letter is going to require some real thought and effort and is not something that can be bought during the St. Valentine’s Day marketing madness that happens around this time of year. If your penmanship is terrible then type the letter although handwritten letters have a genuine, warm, and loving feel.  I do not know what I am going to include in these letters as of yet but these are some of the themes that I will likely cover.

  1. I will identify at least three things that I appreciate about them.
  2. I will describe how proud I am of each one and cite specific examples for why.
  3. I will write a theme on how they add so much value to my life in their own unique ways.
  4. I will reflect on two silly moments I have had with each recently.
  5. I will list three things I want to do with each one this year and reflect on how to make these events happen.
  6. I will remind them how strong and valuable they are and that I believe in each one.
  7. These are good places to start I think and as I write some things down I may think of other elements to include in each one’s letter.

Feel free to incorporate these suggestions for your Valentine’s letters.  I hope this Valentine’s Day brings each of you an extra dose of love and support from your loved ones…


Doc Brown 

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Dr. Gerald Brown (Doc Brown) is owner of Inner Compass Counseling, Coaching, and Consulting PLLC in Cornelius, NC and Statesville, NC.  He is passionate about fatherhood issues, immigrant concerns, and specializes in trauma work.  Doc Brown has presented at various conferences and has a multitude of experience training organizations and corporations in diversity and multicultural resilience.  He believes in helping individuals, couples, and families find meaning and integrate that meaning with various resiliencies in order to live purposefully and vibrantly.  He is married with two daughters ages 14 and 5.

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