When we’re in the middle of a stressful situation, it can be challenging to find smooth or easy ways to handle them. The first step is to realize that you don’t have to do it alone. Try taking a little break to call a friend or trusted confidante so you can sort through what might REALLY be going on. Often we’re caught in a pattern that we don’t recognize at first – one that has played out over and over in our lives, but we’ve been waiting for a different ending.
Call for a Consult
Tell your story to someone who is a trustworthy and valued listener -- someone who can simply listen without offering suggestions or solutions until you're ready for them.
As you talk, notice the areas of “stuckness” you’re feeling. This is usually a variation of the same "story" you've told before, the same pattern of interacting you've experienced in the past.
Ask your listener to help you "see" the pattern or story.
Maybe it's time to tell a different story!
What has helped you get “un-stuck” before?
This is when your listener can offer ideas or possible solutions. (If they have only one idea, that's advice!) Work together to figure out other solutions.
What could you do now?
Maybe it’s time for a new ending to your story!
Why not create your own “Toolkit”?
What would you include in it?
Consider taking a little time to make a personal “Toolkit for Transformation” so you have easy access to helpful strategies in times of trouble.
Each week, this blog presents a simple-to-use tool for you to use. Each post will highlight a tool or strategy from a variety of psychological, spiritual, energy-based, complementary, and integrative approaches.
The strategies this blog describes could help you change your negative energy into positive or shift your self-defeating thoughts into ones that support you better. The tools have been tested by many of my clients – as well as myself – helping them to manage and transform difficult the feelings, concerns, and situations that you may also be facing.
Practice, Practice, Practice
Remember that it may take several tries – practice – before you feel a huge shift, but keep at it! You might find changing just one thing in how you approach a challenge in your life brings at least some relief.
Suzan K. Thompson, Ph.D. is a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years experience. She helps adults learn practical tools and strategies to manage anxiety, depression and trauma. For more tools please visit: www.Toolkit4Transformation.com.