In the Spring my family and I took a beautiful trip to a beach in South Carolina. We drove down and took our bikes with us. This was the first time we had traveled to South Carolina and from the pictures of the beach and resort it looked like we would be able to ride our bikes everywhere. Once we were unpacked and set up we got our bikes out and began exploring our vacation surroundings. There was this moment when my seven year old daughter on her pink slumber party bike and a ponytail in her hair and my husband looking tan and relaxed it hit me-WOW we are one good looking bunch of people.
All of the sudden I sat up straighter on my bike and threw my shoulders back and thought we would be a great advertisement for this resort. Once I realized no one thought we were as good looking as I did and no paparazzi was following us I came to understand the reason I thought we looked so good was because we were relaxed. We didn’t have our cell phones on, were in a new place with new things to see and we were truly in the moment.
I have blogged before about how I in the beginning of my career I thought self-care was for wimps. But over time and many clients later I now know I (we) need to be free of our everyday selves and enjoy new sights, sounds and air. I have to say it was one of the best vacations we ever took. My family reminded me of a quote from author, storyteller and humorist Garrison Keillor “Lake Wobegon, where all the women are strong, all the men are good looking and the children are above average.” I truly felt on that vacation we were the best part of ourselves.
Julie North is an in home family counselor in a rural county in South-Central Michigan. She has a private practice and is currently being trained in TF-CBT and complex trauma therapies.