Pat Myers

Patricia Myers

Patricia Myers is a counselor, an associate professor of counselor education, and doctoral student.

  • Loneliness

    Dec 09, 2009
    I like to scan news sites on my lunch hour to see how the world is doing. One headline that caught my eye this week dealt with loneliness being contagious. This article cited a new study recently published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. This ten year longitudinal study, which included 5000 people, found those of us who are lonely tend to pass this quality on to friends and family members as we move farther and farther to the edges of social life. The process is not quite like giving a cold to someone else but it is very similar. As the journey occurs from the center of social life to the lonely fringe, we shed relationships like too many warm clothes. By the time we arrive at our destination, we are alone or nearly so and those we’ve been in contact with experience their own journey into the solitary wasteland.
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  • Sticks and Stones

    Nov 30, 2009
    Remember the childhood retort that ‘sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me’? If only this could be true! I can remember saying this on the playground to a now unknown tormentor only to turn away with tears streaming down my face. I’ve heard too many stories from too many people with similar stories. I’ve listened to many a client’s heartache over the harsh and painful words spoken by someone they loved. Words that they’ve taken deeply to heart. Words spoken twenty, thirty or more years ago that became the foundation of their identity. Words spoken with deliberation and cruelty or words spoken out of thoughtlessness or carelessness have the same painful impact.
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  • Beneficence

    Nov 18, 2009
    As I review textbooks on ethical, legal, and professional issues within the counseling profession I see almost identical lists of virtues and ethics that are the foundations of the profession. These lists all include the moral principles of justice, fidelity, and veracity. As counselors, we all know that a primary objective is nonmaleficence: to do no harm. The counterpoint to this principle of doing no harm is the principle of beneficence. Beneficence means to do good (a word with many meanings), and to promote well-being and health. Theodore Remley and Barbara Herlihy state “It could be argued that the obligation of ordinary citizens in our society ends with doing no harm to others, whereas professionals have a higher obligation to provide a service that benefits society. Thus, counselors actively do good or are helpful and work to promote the mental health and wellness of their clients”.
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  • Fort Hood Aftermath

    Nov 10, 2009
    It is the day after the horrific shootings at Fort Hood. Once again we find ourselves frightened by the violent events that seem to make no sense and for which we have no context to find meaning. The news stations and websites are filled with details, endless speculations, and ongoing analysis. As I scanned these headlines I saw an article on one of the heroes of this tragedy, a female police officer who is credited with stopping the assault while she herself was seriously wounded. Sgt. Kimberly Munley risks her life daily as a police officer. An article on MSNBC states that Sgt. Munley’s Twitter account shows the following quote: “I live a good life. ... a hard one, but I go to sleep peacefully @ night knowing that I may have made a difference in someone's life." That single statement resonates with me although I cannot say that I have ever had the opportunity or the courage to save any lives.
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  • For Lucy

    Nov 06, 2009
    My husband and I recently made the heartbreaking decision to euthanize our eleven year old beloved dog Lucy. As we have grieved her loss the counselor part of me has been trying to make some sense of both the process of grief as well as psychological importance of the loss of a pet. I know all the research about how pets enhance our well-being. At this moment of loss the scales seem horribly tipped in favor of never experiencing this pain again.
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