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Isolated Men: Helping Men Make and Maintain Friendships
Travis W. Schermer
Advances in technology over the past several decades have connected humans more than ever. Electronic mail, cellular phones, videoconferencing, Web-based social networks, and a host of other advances have saturated our lives with potential connection. In spite of the ease and ubiquity of tools for communication, many clients I meet with yearn for connection with others: None so much as the men who have been distracted from friendship by investments in work and family. The present treatise provides some background about masculine culture and describes some of the qualities of male samesex-friendships. Suggestions are provided for counselors attempting to scaffold male clients who are looking to make friends.