My New Years Resolution this year is to finally make a New Years Resolution. In the past I’ve always balked at the idea of making a January list of potential goals for the New Year, but this year I’m going to do it. I figured I’ll make a resolution and have it focus on my growth as a counselor, and if you haven’t made a resolution yet, let’s do this together!
I’ll list my resolutions, and then I encourage you to take a moment and think of your own, and post it.
In 2011, I would like to:
1.Take an REBT workshop at the Albert Ellis Institute, and further develop my understanding of the theory in practice. REBT has always been fascinating to me and although I’ve read and studied it, I’d like to attend a formal workshop and observe it done in person.
2.Continue with my current research interests, finish current projects, and build the courage to submit proposals to at least 2 conferences. Since graduate school I haven’t been as active as I’d wanted in continuing my research interests, and I want to change that. I want to overcome this hump, get up, and become an active contributor to our field by presenting ideas I find interesting. I want to gain more experience presenting and facilitating discussions with my peers.
3.Be more aware of my non-verbal cues in sessions. I feel that our body can tell more than our words and our clients can read our body language just as good as we can read theirs. I need to become more aware of how I hold myself and be sure my body and words are sending the same message.
4.Try a new technique that I learned from a book, journal, workshop, or conference on a regular basis. There are many interesting techniques our there and I’d like to get into the habit of working them into my tool belt. I remember at the last ACA conference I attended several workshops in creativity in counseling that really opened my eyes to new things. I’d like to not only learn about them, but also overcome my fear of trying new things with clients and actually do it!
5.Engage in counseling as a client. In grad school I had a regular appointment in our college counseling center and worked through so much. It’s been a few years and I’d like to get back in. I believe that to fully understand the process and what our roles are, we need to experience counseling from both sides.
6.Remember that silence is not bad. Embrace it! Don’t let those awkward pauses bother me anymore. Remember that it’s ok if there is silence, talking doesn’t always have to be happening.
Now it’s your turn. Begin your Resolution with "In 2011, I would like to:___________(fill in the rest!)"
Jaime Castillo is a counselor who works for a non-profit agency in New York City.